When I first moved to America, I expected skyscrapers, fast food, Disneyland, and Hollywood. What I didn’t expect was being asked to tip for takeout or seeing people eat ice cream in a snowstorm.
From personal space to drive-thru weddings, here are 10 American cultural shocks that left me utterly surprised as a new immigrant. (I’ll talk about music in another article because trust me, Americans really love their music!)
1. Tipping Culture: One of the Biggest American Culture Shocks
I still remember my first takeout order in New York, picked up my food and walked away, only to be told I hadn’t added a tip. I was confused. Why would I tip when no one served me at a table?”
One of the first things that caught me off guard was tipping. In the U.S., tipping is almost mandatory, whether you’re at a restaurant, getting takeout, or riding in an Uber. Tips can range from 15% to 25%.
In Pakistan, tipping is optional and based on personal choice. No one expects it or gets offended if you don’t. So, being expected to tip even when the service wasn’t great was a real cultural shock.
2. Super Friendly Gestures
One thing I absolutely love is how friendly people are. Strangers say “hi” or smile at you at the gym, in parks, or while shopping.
Back home, this would seem odd. If someone randomly talks to you, you’d probably assume they want something
3. Cold Drinks in Cold Weather
Even when it’s freezing outside, Americans drink iced water and eat ice cream. Restaurants automatically serve water with ice, no matter the season. This felt strange coming from a country where ice is mostly saved for hot days.
4. Clean Bathrooms Everywhere
Almost every major store,Target, Walmart, CVS—has clean, public bathrooms for customers. That kind of customer care is rare in Pakistan,South Asia, where even finding a usable public restroom can be a challenge.
5. Personal Space Matters
Americans highly value personal space. Whether you’re at work or in a social setting, people maintain a respectful distance.
In South Asia, closeness is the norm. Hugs, handshakes, and crowded events are part of everyday life. Weddings? Packed with people and full of life!
6. Americans Are Blunt
Americans don’t beat around the bush. They say what they think, even if it’s uncomfortable. Back home, such honesty can be taken as rude. But here, it’s just being clear.
You might think it’s harsh, but in the U.S., I found that even at work, people won’t sugarcoat it. When I was let go from a small project once, they simply said, ‘We don’t need you anymore.’ Back home, this would’ve been a long, emotional conversation
7. Eating On the Go
Eating while walking, driving, or working is very common. Meals are quick and on the go. In Pakistan, meals are social events where families gather and eat together.
8. Everything by Appointment
In America, appointments are a strict rule. Whether you need to see a doctor, get a haircut, or meet your child’s teacher, you must book an appointment. Walk-ins are rare, except for emergencies at hospitals. If it’s not urgent, you’ll have to wait for your turn. Back home, hardly anyone books appointments—we just show up! Planning ahead felt like a whole new concept to me.
9. Time Is Treated Like Gold
People here take time very seriously. If something is scheduled for 8 o’clock, it means exactly 8 o’clock—whether it’s a job, an appointment, or even a party. There’s no such thing as showing up two hours late like we do on “Pakistan Standard Time.” If you’re always late, you might lose both your friends and your job!
My American friend once texted me, “You okay???” because I was five minutes late for coffee. Five. Minutes.
That’s how punctuality works here.
10. Drive-Through Everything
From coffee shops to banks to even weddings, drive-through services are everywhere. In Pakistan, people prefer being part of the experience, not staying in the car.
Final Thoughts
America has many cultural habits that can feel surprising at first. For instance:
- Hospitals are quiet, while restaurants are loud (the opposite of Pakistan).
- Emergency services respond quickly and efficiently.
- There are hardly any issues with electricity, gas, or water.
One major difference is awareness of constitutional rights. The First Amendment guarantees freedom of speech, religion, and assembly. Most Americans know their rights. In contrast, many in South Asia aren’t fully aware of what their constitution provides.
These shocks used to frustrate or confuse me. But over time, I found myself changing, smiling back at strangers, planning appointments ahead, and actually being on time! If you’re new here, don’t worry. It takes time, but you’ll find your rhythm
I’d love to hear your story, whether you moved to the U.S., Canada, or anywhere else. What surprised you the most? Drop your thoughts in the comments, and let’s make this space helpful for anyone adjusting to a new life abroad.
